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Let Go & Fly!

View More: I have noticed a terrible pattern in my life – that I quite often let fear dictate my choices. I struggle with anxiety and fear which handicap my life in so many different ways. Anxiety is a lesser evil than many physical handicaps, but an evil nonetheless. It’s a mental isolation, a fear of the unknown and a form of self-destruction. If you have anxiety or struggle with panic attacks, you know exactly what I mean. It’s a hopeless illness, but I want to tell you that you’re strong enough to break through.

This past March I took a trip to New York City and had crippling panic attacks on the subway. I was so frightened from being underground that I couldn’t see where I was going. I cried and shook and couldn’t get my body to stop. I was very overcome by anxiety and fear. This happens to me sometimes when I face situations that are out of my control, not always to that extent, but anxiety creeps in every time I am afraid.

Whenever I was afraid, my thoughts felt out of control. I would often think of what I would do if I would fall.  I began to realize I needed to change my way of thinking – I just needed to have hope!  I began turning things around in my mind and instead of being afraid of falling, I’d ask myself – oh darling what if you fly? Fear is dictated by allowing your thoughts to go to the worst possible scenario and it leads to hopeless thinking.

I no longer look at my life through a lens of despair, but I look at life as an opportunity to fly!

Beautiful girl I promise you there is much richness in spreading your wings. When you choose to let go, open your eyes and completely live in a moment, God will take you to new heights and you will see like you never have before.

Our lives begin when we decide to explore all God has for us. Whether we give ourselves to travel, ministry, a career, or a family, there is more than this computer screen and your favorite chair to curl up in. There are so many day where I wanted to crawl into bed and hide under the covers forever, but the days when I risk my comfort are the days I write about in blogs, the days I sing about, the days I truly live! I encourage you, do not let fear takeover you. This world is so big and you were created for it. My dear friend once said, We are wired for love, fear is learned.”  It’s incredibly true and slowly my heart is changing, realizing more and more that being open and free is what I’m supposed to be.

carlyThis blog was written by Pure Design Teen Magazine’s blogger Carly Sage. Carly is 19 and lives in Youngstown, Ohio where she attends Victory School of Ministry. She hopes to be in full-time ministry as a pastor one day and loves to express herself through writing!

Gossip Girl

gossipgirlDear hurting girl who doesn’t deserve the pain you’re in, or what the other girl did to you, or didn’t mean to do to you, please, oh please don’t turn to gossip!

Gossip weaves an alluring and intricate maze – a maze that gets bigger with every word, and has many twists and turns that often lead to a dead end.

Recently in my life I have been victim to a lot of gossip, slander and many lies. We say that sticks and stones will break my bones but words may never hurt me…but the truth and painful reality is that words when carelessly thrown around break hearts, dreams, spirits and smiles. The Bible says that our tongues and words have the power of life and death:

“The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk

will reap the consequences.” Proverbs 18:21

Are you aware that your words have power? You can speak things into existence! Do you speak good, loving and beautiful things, or out of revenge and hate, do you speak ugly words? This portion of scripture also says that you reap the consequences of what you speak. You don’t only harm others with your gossip but also yourself.

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but your words hurt more intensely.  Gossip is one of the worst forms of hurting another person. Unless you have been victim to gossip you can’t imagine how much it hurts inside. It causes a self-loathing and isolation to rise up in another person. You commit a crime against your own gender and tear down all the principles that girls should stand for. In a world that is difficult enough to navigate and figure out and make it through alive, why would we rise up against each other in hateful speech?

Whatever your reason for gossip, I assure you it isn’t validated. I’m not trying to downplay your hurt at all, maybe you truly are a victim of something awful, but doing something in return to hurt another, or to fulfill your own vendetta makes you no better than the person who hurt you.

You do have a right to love. If a friend has hurt you, go and talk to HER—not to other people ABOUT her. If she hurt you, don’t lash out for revenge, pray for her. Look at her situation, try to understand and do whatever you can to make amends and forgive. Do you know what the best success is in a situation where someone has hurt you intentionally or unintentionally? The best form of success is to move on, forgive, and not let it affect your life.

Girls, girls, girls…We need to do the best we can and stick together in love and unity. There is no benefit to gossip, there is no benefit to be against one another, instead let’s honestly love, support and lift each other up.

Sincerely, the girl who was stoned by gossip.

carlyThis blog was written by Pure Design Teen Magazine’s blogger Carly Sage. Carly is 19 and lives in Youngstown, Ohio where she attends Victory School of Ministry. She hopes to be in full-time ministry as a pastor one day and loves to express herself through writing!

From Fear to Fit!

yogaDo you look around, comparing yourself, wishing you could be “fit”? Are you frustrated with what you’ve tried? Do you tend to change your mind two days into the process? Fitness is more than eating right and working out.  True health starts in your mind.

Ask yourself, do you want results that begin in a place of fear? Fear of judgement, opinions, insecurity? What if you were able to approach fitness out of a place of ALREADY loving yourself? Out of already knowing you are enough?

The truth is you ARE already enough. All throughout scripture, we are taught about love. This is not just love for others, we love as we are loved.  We need to be able to receive love and to function in love. This includes receiving love from yourself. Do you know that your faith is supposed to be connected to the knowledge that you are perfectly created? There is freedom to embrace yourself in truth.  Often, your own mindset is what holds you back.

Galatians 5:6b-7 says, “What is important is faith expressing itself in LOVE. You were running the race so well. Who has held you back from following the truth? It certainly isn’t God, for He is the one who called you to freedom.”

When you approach fitness from a place of love, you create space to walk into what is possible.  Instead of feeling deprived or controlled, you feel empowered and motivated. You stick to it long enough to feel the benefits. You experience the addition of your physical health, mirroring your internal health.

With this mindset, you are free to run, lift weights, engage in sports, try yoga, bike, do pilates, or rock climb. We were made to move! When you move, you experience a fuller quality of life.

When you feed your body the nutrients it needs, you experience well-being and have energy.  Start simple. Wake up and intentionally love yourself by the choices you make.  Begin treating yourself by including things you love into your schedule. Take yourself for a jog, try something new, choose the natural food option over fast food. Make changes in your mind, and the rest will follow. You are powerful enough to choose, we were created with a free will.  Choose to live in the fullness of what’s possible – where you aren’t forcing things or striving, but you are creating and flourishing.

Summer and fall are the perfect times to wake up into freshness of the day. Try these suggestions for one week:


  • Wake up and squeeze ½ lemon into purified 8oz water, drink slowly.
  • Look in the mirror: set your heart and mind on God and His love for you. Look at yourself with eyes of love. Connect to who you authentically are.
  • Workout: Do 20-60 minutes of your choice of work out. This can be cardio, weights, a mixture of both, yoga…this can change on a daily basis. Honor your body, and allow yourself to choose day by day.
  • Breakfast: this is the perfect season for smoothies! Try berries, almond milk, honey, spinach, pears….you can make any type of smoothie you want with fruits, veggies, and non-dairy products. You will feel AMAZING.

Afternoon/Dinner:  You started out in health and strength — mentally and physically. Use your power of choice for meals – the less ingredients the better.  Take an afternoon walk or a mini yoga session to revive.

Night time: If you like to snack before bed, try making home-made popsicles – especially in the summer!  Use fresh juice, freeze your smoothie mix…endless possibilities that will allow you to stay in integrity with yourself and love yourself.

Remember, you are already enough. Anything you choose to do is an addition in allowing you to function in who you are created to be.  Stay tuned!  More ideas to come in future blogs!

marieMarie Hudson is 29, loves life, and is committed to spreading truth through the knowledge of freedom and abundance she receives from Jesus. She is free from a 10 year eating disorder, and is dedicated to connect to girls to show the reality of choosing truth. Marie has recently joined the Pure Design team as a creative writer!

Radical Courage: What It Really Feels Like To Say “Yes”

jumpingAt the end of last year, the word courage seemed to be everywhere.  It glimmered in books I was reading, Christmas gifts I received, jewelry, and quotes my roommate texted me with a “this just made me think of you.”  I’m fairly certain that had I continued to ignore this theme long enough, I would have found the word scribbled into the pattern on toilet paper or “liquid courage” appearing on my kitchen counter as dish soap.

Courage is beautiful to me and brave is something I’ve always wanted to be.  Here’s the thing, though.  If given the choice between my own adventure and the ones in my imagination, I would almost always choose the imagined ones; satisfied to put my feet up on the front porch rail to tuck into a bowl of buttery salted popcorn and a good novel, staining the pages with every turn.

But our relentless Father would not allow His beloved daughter to live in her imagination.  No, He took my hand asked me to join Him on an adventure, speaking sweetly to me in songs and stories and friends and verses.  With weak knees and a shaking voice, I accepted His invitation to be brave, not yet knowing exactly what it meant, only that God wouldn’t leave me alone about it, still not sure if He could be trusted to come through.

Six months later, here’s what I know about being brave:

It looks a lot like being scared to death.  The only difference between fear and courage is one step.  Fear steps backward and courage steps forward.  It feels like breaking open.  Like crying tears of surrender and relief until you’re convinced there are no tears left, until there’s nothing left but quiet and sleep.  Because that thing you’ve been carrying finally got too heavy and it’s getting in the way of what God is creating in and through you.  And now there’s nothing to do but lay it at His feet and whisper “take it.  There’s no room for this where you’re leading me.”

Courage is letting go of everything you thought you should be and trusting that you are who God says you are.

Courage looks a lot like faith, and faith looks like trust; trusting that God is taking you somewhere worth going, and that He won’t leave you there alone.  It means believing that God wants to do the impossible; in you, for you and through you even when fear says “Who am I to be chosen, adored, cherished and set apart for something more?”  God whispers “You are, because I say you are; because I have designed you by hand, on purpose and for a purpose.  You are perfect in my eyes.  I see no flaws in you.”

Believe me when I tell you that is all you need.  On the days when it doesn’t make sense and you want to go back to the well paved road, His words will be enough to be brave for one more day.  All He asks is one step forward at a time.

“Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!” Luke 1:45


Krista is a writer & life coach.  She is every day falling in love with moments & lines from her favorite books. She loves daydreaming & getting her hands dirty in her garden alongside her dog, Hank.  Her heart overflows with love for opening the eyes and hearts of young women to the way that Christ pursues their hearts, and to the love story and grand adventure he calls them to enter into.  Check out her website: or follow her on Instagram: @kristawinbigler.

Carrying your Sisters

girlsembracingLast year, one of my closest friends walked through the most difficult season of her life, to date. Early in her pregnancy, she discovered that her tiny baby was not developing as she should, and that she would most likely not survive. This was of course, devastating news, and my friend was heartbroken. She worried that she had done something to cause this, wondered why God would allow it, and cried tears of hopelessness in my arms. And I cried with her. My heart was also broken. I walked alongside her because honestly, that was all I could do. I had no words that would comfort, but I linked arms with her and we walked together. She was given the option to terminate the pregnancy and end the life of her child. She chose however to pray and trust God with the outcome.

We walked together through all 9 painful months to the birth of her little girl, praying each day for a miracle. Our women’s group stood with her and prayed. I had never wanted anything more. One year ago last week, my friend’s sweet daughter was stillborn. There had not been a miracle and we were left with tears and questions.

It was a humbling privilege to walk with and, sometimes carry, my dear sister during that time. As women, we have a special and God-given ability to love and encourage each other. We are able to love and support each other in ways that no boyfriend or husband is able to. My friend is married and walked through this with her husband, but he was not a mother as I am, and was simply not able to truly understand her perspective during that trial. He had his own perspective that we were also not able to understand. This is why community with our sisters as women, and with our brothers as men, is so incredibly important. We need each other and God designed it that way. He created us to need to be understood, and in relationships with those who think, live, love, and cry as we do. Those are your sisters.

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

A few verses later, it says that “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” I often see the cord of three strands as myself, my sisters, and my God. It is you, your girlfriends at school or youth group, and Jesus. Our God has designed us to be in community, and we desperately need each other to survive. Anyone who has ever been in high school knows this! The enemy wants to tear us apart. He wants women to judge each other, talk about each other behind our backs, and to compete with each other. This is not the heart of Jesus. Your sisters in Christ are the ones who truly know your experiences because they are also living it out. In order to live out our Christian lives to the fullest extent, if we want to go through storms coming out alive on the other side, we need our sisters.

Even though my story may not be the same as what you or your friends are currently facing, I’m sure many of you have close friends walking through other difficult things. I’d encourage you to find ways to help carry them through their trial. Love, support, compliment, celebrate, and carry your sisters so they can make it through the other side!

lauraLaura lives in Delaware, OH, with her husband and daughter, Olive. She loves running, baking, and drinking coffee on her backyard deck. Writing has always been her passion and she is looking for ways to encourage and bless others through it.

Sisterhood: Speak Up!

sisterhoodIt’s a scary thing when we see our sisters in Christ slipping away and doing things they shouldn’t. What do we do? Do we confront them and risk our friendship, or do we let them “do their thing” and try to be there when they need us?

I went to summer camp with my church when I was in junior high and high school. Each year, after a week of prayer, worship, and friendships out in the woods without my phone or any of my school friends, I was completely changed. I would come home and read my Bible every day, delete inappropriate music off of my phone, stop hanging out with the wrong crowd, and change my Twitter bio to say something about how much I loved Jesus.

This usually lasted for the rest of the summer and into the first few months of the school year, until it then faded away. I would become lazy and quit going to youth group, start listening to all the bad music I would hear from my friends, and hang out with friends I knew I shouldn’t be with.

It was easy for me to slip away from God because I was surrounded by people who weren’t trying to get closer to Him.

I wasn’t stealing and I never committed murder, but I was in just as much sin. I disrespected my parents, coveted my friend’s new clothes, and got involved with guys. These traps are so easy to fall right into without even recognizing them. I justified my actions, because I still prayed and loved Jesus, and I still felt Him in my heart. But I had fallen away, and I didn’t have a sister in Christ to pull me back on track!

“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

 Your friends who are struggling with impurity or any kind of sin need your help.

Just recently, I had to confront one of my girlfriends about something that I knew would hurt her and that she would regret later. We hang out regularly to get coffee and catch up, so I invited her to hang out brought it up in the conversation. She listened and was really thankful that I confronted her!

She felt loved, supported and looked out for by me

 – that’s what sisterhood is about!

I don’t know if she repented and decided to change her actions, but now she knows that I am here for her, that there is a higher standard for her to pursue, and that she doesn’t have to do it alone! It was scary and intimating to bring it up to her, because it was kind of awkward to talk about and I didn’t know how she would respond. But I know that it was my responsibility as her friend and sister in Christ to make sure she knows that she doesn’t have to go through it alone. We need people around us to support us and keep us on track!

“My dear brothers and sisters, if someone among you wanders away from the truth and is brought back, you can be sure that whoever brings the sinner back from wandering will save that person from death and bring about the forgiveness of many sins.” James 5:19-20

So be brave and bring up those awkward things with your girlfriends who need help! If they don’t thank you now, they will thank you years from now when their lives are better because of you.

Keeping each other accountable is a great way to strengthen and deepen a friendship – someday you may need a friend who will bring those things up with you, too. If you’re like I was and you don’t have a friend to help you, but you know you’re slipping away, I want to encourage you to find someone you trust and tell it all! You will be empowered to change and get back on the right path. If you don’t have anyone to talk to, email us at Pure Design Teen Mag and ask for me directly. We write these blogs and do what we do to help girls like you, and we would love to know and help you face to face!

So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11


IsabelIsabel Siegal is 19 years old and lives in Westerville, Ohio. She has a passion for all aspects of wellness – organic veggies, nature adventures, and the pursuit and understanding of truth. Non-fiction books, house plants, trips to Whole Foods, and running at Hoover Reservoir are some of the things she loves to do.  She is a true conversationalist, and an ideas girl with a massive love for connecting with people. Right now, the Lord is teaching her to trust Him, and to dream big!

Sisterhood: Overcoming the Beauty Lies

brokenmirrorWhen you look in the mirror, what do you see?

Do you immediately see the blemishes, imperfections and things you dislike about yourself? Most of us do!

Culture today tries to define what our identity should be.  Beauty is defined by society as being stick-thin, air-brushed, perfect skin complexion, toned muscles and trending with the latest fashions.  We see movie stars, athletes, musicians and others in the spotlight day in and day out and we have this image of what beauty is.  But we often forget that images on TV, in the movies and especially in glamour magazines aren’t real.  They are airbrushed, modified, photo-shopped, cropped and edited to make us believe that there is an element of reality to what we are seeing.  What we ALSO fail to see are the eating disorders, the stress filled days, the workout regiments and the tension that these women and girls are constantly under in order to fit into this elite bracket of “beautiful”.

Our identity is wrapped up in what we look like, what we know, or what we can contribute to society.  The Bible, however clearly says that our identity should be found in Christ.  We should draw our value and self-worth from what God says about us.  In order for us to bravely become ourselves and be secure in who God has made us to be as women, we have to agree with the truth of God’s Word about us.


We have to look at glamour magazines and remind ourselves this isn’t real, we have to watch movies and realize that Hollywood is glamourizing what’s on the screen.  We have to recognize society’s perspective of beauty isn’t real, but a lie, and God’s perspective is the truth.

In order to believe the truth, we have to realize that we live in a broken system in this fallen world.  We have to understand, that the enemy is out to steal from us, to kill us and destroy us…  And He is going to use every weapon that is at his disposal to get us to buy the lies he wants us to believe.  Unfortunately, the beauty industry is after our money and in order to get our money, they must “sell us a belief system” that says we need make-up, we need the latest fashion, and need the latest hair style in order to fit in and be beautiful.

We have to reject these lies and embrace that we are beautiful just the way we are.  And that these things – makeup, clothing, hair and accessories simply enhance the beauty we already have.

The ONLY WAY to begin to gain confidence in who we are is to begin to learn to combat the lies with truth – the truth of God’s word!!

Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

Image found on Google images.

mePamela Lozano is a conscientious leader who believes in investing in and mentoring the next generation to raise them up to be who God has designed them to be. She is the President & Founder of Pure Design Ministries which publishes Pure Design Teen Magazine on a quarterly basis.

Sisterhood: Drop the Masks

maskSo often we hide the “real me” behind masks.  We put up fronts of being strong, confident and secure, when we are really weak, afraid and very insecure.  We don’t want others to know what’s truly going on inside because we are afraid of what they might think of us.  Who wants to hang out with someone who is weak and afraid?

When we hide and live in a false reality, we aren’t really living at all. We walk around pretending – hoping maybe that someday, somehow, something may change. But the reality is nothing will change if we aren’t honest with ourselves or others.

In today’s world of social media, YouTube and VLOGs, it’s even easier to hide.  We create a filtered selfie at the very best angle and retake it 14 times before we post. We add a fun hashtag and laugh away the pain and reality of what’s really going on inside.  We pretend that it doesn’t hurt when we don’t get invited to our girlfriend’s party. We act like we don’t care as friends post about a gathering we were left out of.  We smile at our parents when asked how we are doing. We don’t want them to worry. We don’t share with counselors or pastors what we really think about social or moral issues, or political injustices because our opinions might not fully align, so why bother?

We often hide the “real” us because of fear of rejection or judgment by others.  We go through life as if everything is okay, when we are really hurting and broken inside.  In order to avoid getting hurt, we stay behind these masks pretending to be something we are not.  We draw our identity from what we do – gymnastics, music, art or academics, and try to prove to ourselves and everyone that we have value.  What we truly desire is the ability to be ourselves with no strings attached.  We want to be loved for who we ARE and not what we DO.  But often, we do not even like who we are.  We are filled with hurt, anger and brokenness, and are afraid to reach out asking for help or support.

And we don’t know how to cross the bridge of silence we have built and allow others close enough to see the real us.  Open honest dialogue, acceptance and love are what we truly long for and need…  But will we ever get it?

We are created for relationships, but in order to have quality relationships, we need to be authentic with one another.  Authentic means being real, vulnerable and honest.  It is defined as:  not false or copied; being genuine, reliable and trustworthy.  As believers, we are called to live authentic lives and to be in authentic relationships with one another.  Is this easy?  No!  It’s much easier to “fake” it and pretend we are doing well, when inside we are struggling. However, if we are willing to face our brokenness and allow others in to help, we begin walking in a brand new place of freedom and power.  Jesus said in 2 Corinthians 12:9, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  What a promise!  When I am weak, His strength takes over.

mePamela Lozano is a conscientious leader who believes in investing in and mentoring the next generation to raise them up to be who God has designed them to be. She is the President & Founder of Pure Design Ministries which publishes Pure Design Teen Magazine on a quarterly basis.


We Need Each Other

girlsbylakeI want to tell you a story about a girl.

A girl with fire in her hair, and big dreams in her heart.

Yes that girl is me.

So we can call her Carly! Carly had a difficult life in which every time she trusted someone, they would hurt and let her down. She began to retreat further and further inside of herself until she could would not let any other person into her life. Carly thought that being alone protected her, and since she wouldn’t allow anyone close enough to break down her walls of protection, that she would be safe and sound. Carly loved people, but she loved them at an arm’s length. She knew people go deep when they get close and that felt vulnerable.  Many others have the same darkness inside of them as she did, and if she let them get too close, she might feel their pain, or they may feel hers.

Do you know that everything about the way I was living was unhealthy? I expected others to be perfect, but the truth is that we are all beautifully broken and need each other. By not allowing others to know me, I hurt myself. I was the person that I feared because I hurt myself every day by believing the lie that I was safe in solitude, in this lonely fog.

I love this quote “Love was first, and so was relationship.” by Pastor Krysta Cooks. It says it all; we were created to be in relationship with one another!

Genesis 2:7 says, “Then the Lord God formed man out of the dust of the ground and breathed the breath of life into man’s nostrils, and the man became a living person.” Pastor Theo Koulianos (of the Answer Church in Lake Mary Florida) asked this question to me and my classmates at Victory School of Ministry, “How close would God have to be to breathe into one’s nostrils?” I’ve thought about this over and over since then and I don’t think I’ll ever forget this image. How small are your nostrils? Someone would have to literally be in your face and extremely close to breathe into your nostrils. That is the intimacy that we first encountered with God.

We have a relational God who created us for love, and for relationship.

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.”

I was missing out on the greatest commandment for a very long time. Loving God, and loving people. If I do nothing else in this life but love Jesus, and love people, I will have done so much.


Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,     one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” – Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived.

My Bishop always says “You cannot give what you do not have.” I encourage you to have friends and be a friend. Jesus was called a friend of sinners, and He is called your friend.

I didn’t think I needed people, but I have realized there is no greater joy than being a friend and knowing and loving know people. I was completely alone until I completely surrendered this area of my life to the Lord. God gave me courage to befriend an incredible pastor friend which led to several new friendships. I am now surrounded by incredibly loving people who lift me up and encourage me.

The truth is that none of us are perfect, and we will hurt each other sometimes, but that’s why we need each other – to be there for one another. No matter what happens to you, and how people hurt you, God’s grace is sufficient for you, and He is the one true friend that will never leave or hurt you.

I encourage those of you who are hurting like I was. Take a chance and be vulnerable again.  Make room in your heart for friendships again.  Let God befriend you as well.  He desires a real relationship with you!

Images were found on Pinterest.

carly_sThis blog was written by Pure Design Teen Magazine’s blogger Carly Sage. Carly is 19 and lives in Youngstown, Ohio where she attends Victory School of Ministry. She hopes to be in full-time ministry as a pastor one day and loves to express herself through writing!

Loving Valentine’s Day When You’re Single

Happy-Valentines-DayIt’s almost Valentine’s Day, or Single Awareness Day if you’re one of the 124 million single people in America.

For single people Valentine’s Day is like the party that you weren’t invited to. Couples are going out on romantic dates, your local grocery store is piled high with heart-shaped memorabilia, and your parents even have plans. So where does this leave you?

I love holidays. I celebrate one almost daily. I decided a long time ago, relationship or no relationship, I deserved to enjoy Valentine’s Day, too. In fact, it’s one of my favorite holidays of the year, and I love celebrating it single.

Let me tell you why.

  1. A Girl’s Best Friend is… A Girl’s Best Friend!

I do have a lot of special someone’s in my life, and they’re all of my friends. Valentine’s Day is the perfect time for me to focus on the friendships in my life, and this means I don’t have to give up the hope of flowers and chocolate boxes just yet, either. Being a chocoholic, that’s very important to me. Every year I celebrate with my friends by going on what I call “Friend Dates.” We get dressed up, see a movie, exchange chocolates, gifts, or flowers, and enjoy a girl’s night out.

Let’s be honest, Valentine’s is a holiday for girl’s anyway. So of course, only we know how to do it right.

  1. The Real Purpose of Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day isn’t about having a boyfriend, it’s about appreciating the relationships in your life. It’s easy to get so caught up in the hype of Valentine’s Day–What’s he going to buy me? What will I wear? –and we miss out on what really makes Valentine’s Day a beautiful holiday. We are blessed with so many different kinds of relationships in our lives, and Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate them all!

  1. What True Love Is

People strive to have that Hallmark kind of love, but I don’t think that’s what love is. Love is about choosing to love somebody even in the moments when you don’t like them. It’s not love until things get a little rough, and the rubber hits the road, and you still choose to work it out. Love is friends by your side who are there for you, a family that believes in you, and when it’s right, a man that won’t give up on you.

It’s so important to have honest, close friendships we can turn to. Friends are in it for the long haul. Show your appreciation to your friends this Valentine’s season, and treat yourself to a box of chocolates while you’re at it!


Kirsten Keesee is 19 years old and lives in Mt. Vernon, Ohio, where she works as a content writer for the Drenda Show. She enjoys traveling, collecting books, and checking items off of her bucket list.