What I learned OFFLINE for 8 months!

savannahofflineI deleted my social media for 8 months.

And cable and Netflix and secular music and pretty much everything else that is entertaining.

Part of me hates social media. Actually scratch that – almost all of me hates it and wishes that it never existed. So when I felt called to get rid of it all for a while, it was somewhat easy for me and let me just say, it was the most productive time of my life!

Let me explain…

Late at night, with just my cell phone and I scrolling through the latest posts from my friends, famous people, and advertisements, that’s when I would hear it.

The thoughts condemned me for not being as beautiful, as tan or as sexy as them. The countless images of girls in their trendy outfits, the bikini pictures, the selfies… It drove me into a downward spiral of insecurity. I would compare myself to what I saw and realized how little I could compete.

I allowed my life to be consumed by the influence of the world, society, and media, instead of being filled with the love of Christ and it distorted my view of myself and the people around me.

After 8 months offline, I learned one thing:

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I cannot control what I see at all times. The only thing I can control is how I allow it to affect me.

This simple idea has changed my life. I realized that the pain I was feeling inside my heart was no one’s fault, by my own because I allowed it. I didn’t understand the power of my thoughts and my words. I told myself so often that I was ugly and then wondered why I started to believe that I was ugly!

I noticed this shift in my mindset one evening standing in line at Chipotle. There was a girl with purple hair and winged eyeliner who was rather kind to me. This was significant to me because I didn’t have a trace of makeup on, wasn’t wearing a stylish outfit, and my hair was a mess… and I NEVER go out looking this way. She didn’t give a second thought at the fact that she could see my “flaws” and it made me realize that I was my harshest critic.

jesuspicI cried that night on my way home as my burrito waited in the bag for me. I began to feel convicted about the way that I was viewing my sisters in Christ – for being judgmental and seeing only their outward appearance instead of their heart. Kind of like how I viewed myself!

It may have taken me 8 months to figure it out, but that detox was just what I needed. I now focus on how each and every person is made in the image of God, including myself.

It is my prayer that women of God will come together and unite to be encouragers and not competitors, to support one another, and to celebrate the beauty in one another, while still knowing that they themselves are equally as beautiful.

As for myself and my own appearance, I choose to focus on more important things like my dreams, relationships, and my Savior. As I focus on things that I value inwardly, the meaning of the outwardly always diminishes in comparison.

“So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.” – Genesis 1:27

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Savannah, 20, is a young writer and video creator who strongly believes in the power of young women coming together in Christ to bring real change to the world. As a result of marrying at the young age of 18, her life is far from ordinary, but her unique life has given her an opportunity to encourage other young girls to see the value of marriage. Savannah has had a relationship with the Lord since she was very young. During the last few years, she has truly begun to find her identity in Christ, which gives her the confidence to share her story in hopes of impacting others.

How to Be Confident When It’s Hard

Confident-Mindset

I have to battle insecurities on a daily basis. Some days confidence comes easier, and some days it seems downright impossible to stay confident. We regularly place our confidence in fragile things, like how good our hair looks, if our skin is acting up, or if we can find something cute to wear.

Don’t you ever get tired of it?

I remember as a young girl looking at old pictures and saying, “I’m going to dress better and try harder this year. I’ll wear more makeup and learn to live with high heels if I have to.” I’d wake up the first day of school and scramble to find something to wear, grabbing out handfuls of shirts to try on and piling the leftovers on my bedroom floor. I’d try to smuggle my frizzy hair into a bun and inevitably cake on too much makeup. After getting so frustrated with the results, I’d climb into the car almost in tears.

Have you ever had a morning like that?

Well, I was tired of letting the condition of my skin, hair, or even my clothes dictate the condition of my day. I wanted to feel confident no matter how my morning routine went.

That’s when I heard a quote that rocked my world!

It’s a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, and it says, “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”

That quote did something amazing for me—it gave me permission to care a little less. I read that, and I thought, “Wait, everyone isn’t waiting for me to mess up? I don’t have to worry about what others think?” When I realized that there wasn’t a spotlight shining on me all the time and people weren’t keeping a record of my off-days, it was like somebody lifted a burden from my shoulders. There was no pressure anymore.

When I’m having a bad day, I have to remind myself:

Life.

Goes.

On.

When small things start to look like big things, those three words ground me. I can take a deep breath. Nobody will care about this a week from now. I can start every day fresh.

Confidence is the most attractive accessory you can wear. Whatever it is you don’t like about yourself, there is someone out there using the same thing you see as a “flaw” to set themselves apart from the crowd. Confidence turns what you consider imperfections into unique qualities that make you gorgeous!

Be you, be comfortable in your skin, and don’t take yourself too seriously. Today is a stepping-stone, not your final destination. Life really does go on no matter what kind of hair day you have, I promise.

I leave you with this wonderful quote I found on Pinterest (the source of all cliché, fantastic advice):

“Confidence is quiet. Insecurities are loud.”

It’s true! So don’t let your insecurities do the talking!

 

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